They may be uncomfortable for an introvert but they only require brief moments of bravery to achieve. Collaboration in the workplace is an ongoing trend that introverts struggle with in the workplace. It is important to realize that stretching into these areas is going to take more energy than your regular comfort zone.
It will be important to recognize when you are reaching your limit and to recharge yourself. The additional bonus of stretching yourself is that as you develop competence you will find these activities easier at least a little and your confidence will grow. While I had always been a strong communicator in written form, I was not a natural when it came to speaking in front of an audience.
As I pushed myself consistently and built skills and confidence, things became easier and less taxing on my energy. There is a huge difference between growing as a human being and trying to completely change your nature.
As the world continues to understand more about introversion and the extrovert bias, the need to act extroverted to succeed decreases. While it is necessary for introverts to stretch into more extroverted behaviour in short bursts to succeed, trying to become an extrovert long term will take a large toll on you personally, and see you operating at a reduced capacity professionally.
Introverts bring unique gifts and insights to the workplace and life, just as extroverts do. It would be a poorer world if talented introverts wasted their potential trying to act extroverted. Book Dave. The Introverted Networker Blog. Is shyness the problem, not introversion?
One link we can draw between shyness and introversion is around risk-taking. Can an introvert act extroverted long term? Energy Just like the need for sleep, if an introvert ignores their need for solitude and reflection, they cannot recharge their energy. Processing Information When scientists have mapped what happens in the brain during a conversation or when receiving information, different parts of the brain fire introverts and extroverts.
Introvert Strengths and Weaknesses An interesting critique of modern schools is that they make students focus on their areas of weakness, rather than their strengths. Does it make sense to operate exclusively in your weaknesses? If you were to work in a way that focused on your weaknesses, how successful do you think you would be in your career? Can an introvert become an extrovert short term?
Areas introverts can stretch briefly for success Networking: Networking is an essential part of business and careers. Risk-Taking: Risk-taking behaviour such as asking for the sale or talking to your boss about a raise is going to be necessary for success. Collaboration: Collaboration in the workplace is an ongoing trend that introverts struggle with in the workplace.
You can do this too. Can an introvert become an extrovert? You might also like:. Visitor Information Reporting Allow this website to collect visitor and device info for statistical purposes. Save Changes. I catch up with Jacob and his teammate, Ed, for a pre-game drink.
I gulp. Jacob senses my anxiety. We head to a nearby school gym. Playing team sports with strangers was exactly like losing my virginity: not memorably awful, but definitely not good.
I cringe every time a ball thuds my way and lack the strength to make my throws clear the other side of the court. Obviously, I get hit on the head. After the game we lost , I hit the pub with Jacob and his teammate Will. Emma introduces me to Rich, the owner of Crossfit Shapesmiths in south London.
I meet JP, who will be leading the class. The workout flies by. Emma is a sweetheart. After the class, JP instructs us — orders, really — to high five. Old Sirin would cringe at this enforced bonhomie, but new Sirin is all high fives. The group meets every Thursday morning to tend the grounds behind the William Morris Gallery in east London.
Looking round, I can relate. I have never gardened before and most of the people here are regulars. Being a newbie among outsiders, doing something I have never done before — not my favourite thing.
My goodness, they are a friendly bunch. We yank out weeds and fling them into a pile. It is a beautiful morning, crisp and clear. I make friends with Judith, who is retired and lives locally. I try not to look at the worms that tumble from my spade. We tuck the plants into the soil together, like children being put to bed. Pan warned me I would be tired and she was right. If my life were a night out, right now I would be sitting in the smoking area, begging a friend to fetch my coat.
The last thing I want to do is hang out with a stranger. We meet up later at an audiovisual exhibition about the natural world. As a result, Radhika and I never get past first base conversationally, which makes our interaction stilted, like kissing with braces. In the gallery, the sounds of the wilderness are compressed into a bright heartbeat of lasers. Radhika says she was homesick last week — it was the Diwali celebration. I feel guilty for co-opting her into my experiment. Moving to a new place on your own is hard.
A lot of my anxiety around socialising is linked to the fact that I often feel responsible for making conversation, as I do today. This, says Klapow, is called "social necessity. If you're an introvert who occasionally shows extroverted traits in public, it's possible that it's happening because of this social necessity, Klapow explains.
An introvert changing their behavior to be more extroverted is definitely possible, but it has to be intentional — and it's also difficult. Introverts will also encounter differing levels of success in the endeavor, experts tell Bustle. Some introverts may adopt extrovert tendencies to get by in public, but never feel completely at home with them, while others may become more comfortable with them through habit. An introvert who practices extroversion regularly, says Klapow, may find that extroverted behaviors "begin to feel more commonplace, and are embraced and even looked fondly on.
However, this doesn't mean that introverts with these capacities are becoming more extroverted by nature. Introverts, says Martinez, can look like extroverts — "they can learn to exhibit extroverted behaviors, manage their anxiety, and environmental stimulation," she says — but that won't change their fundamental nature. Research also indicates that it's extremely unlikely you can shift your introversion to be entirely extroverted, or vice versa.
Armstrong tells Bustle that studies show personality traits are pretty stable after you turn The research on adults and college students, published in the J ournal of Research in Personality , found that largely, people weren't able to consciously change their personalities. When they followed up with the college students six months later, they actually changed to have less of their desired personality trait than when they were first asked.
Even if an introvert has refined or altered their behavior to become more extroverted, they'll likely fall back onto their original ways when they're tired, stressed, anxious, or exhausted. This, says Klapow, is called our "fallback state.
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